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Question: what if your ready to have sex with that special person but you don't want to get your heart broken or he just leaves you cause he just wants to have sex and he got what he needed even it was a long term relationship?

Asked by: A.M., Hyde Park, Massachusetts

Answer: [From Rebecca's colleague] Thank you for writing. After reading your email, I guess I'm a little concerned that you're worried this boy might leave you after you have had sex. It sounds like you are unsure about the way he feels about you and think that he might only be interested in what he can do with you physically. Most relationships at your age do not end up being lifelong, so it is best to focus less on the physical stuff and more on having fun and getting to know the other person. Most girls who have sex at your age, wish later that they hadn't, and I don't want you to have any regrets. I had sex for the first time when I was just a little bit older than you, and I wish I had waited. I'm not sure if you know this, but sex at your age is also against the law and if your boyfriend is 16 or older, he could be charged with rape if you two have sex. My advice to you would be to wait on sex and protect yourself from the risks that might come with it...risks like an unplanned pregnancy, a sexually transmitted disease, or a broken heart.


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